Anal sex seems to still be somewhat controversial. Not everyone can get into it. Some see it as a violation of the human body, others think of it as another hole to get off in. What makes it so taboo though? What leads you to anal sex? How do you introduce it to your partner? Whether your a man or woman, suggesting something like that to your partner can go either way. The pain is in the pleasure. Its a mind game. No one ACTUALLY enjoys that shit, but it's the thought of giving up control to your spouse. You find new ways to feed your sexual appetite and this seems to be the next step after straight sex (ex: missionary, doggystyle, riding, reverse cowgirl, you know the "basics") and oral sex. If your getting into it for the first time, your man should be understanding and work with you. Trust me he will be patient cause it's something that is benefiting him, and if he isn't patient with you, forget about him and move on. He isn't the right person to do it with. Sex Columnist Dan Savage from "The Village Voice" often suggests that we (women) should tell our boyfriends & husbands to let us stick a dildo up their butt before anal sex with us so they can know how it feels. But most black and latino women, and white woman who date black men know that ain't happening. If anal sex is something that you really don't want to do, I suggest you follow Dan's advice. But, if it's something that you've been thinking about and would like to explore here are some pointers to maybe help ease you into your new sexual experience. While your masturbating, play with your anus, see how that stimulation feels for you. At first it might feel weird, but you have to experiment and see what feels right. Oral sex releases alot of tension, so just relax and let him lick & suck until you see stars. If he is really good, you won't even feel nor hear him telling you he is about to take your booty. Chances are, you wont be successful your first time, so don't feel bad or like you "wack". Try again. The more you put your mind at ease, the easier it will be. Some suggest stroking your vagina or clit while he is trying to enter you from the back. I think this helps. Find something to focus and concentrate on to take your mind off of the uncomfortable pain.
Once you have successfully been entered, it is not easy the first few times. To me, the first couple of times you get off from pleasing your man, because your ass is in pain.The pleasure comes from seeing him aroused thinking that your "giving" him something. Men love to be in control. The moans are a mixture of pain and pleasure.80% pain 20% pleasure lol. I would say about the 3rd time, depending on your mans sex game, is when you'll enjoy it and might even experience having an orgasm anally. Please don't give any "shoulder fuckers" anal sex. Once you become comfortable with this, you can try new and different things with it. A friend of mines suggests sticking the small bullet inside of your vagina while your man is inside your anus. Ive never tried this but my mouth is watering right now, so it's something on my "to-do" list. Alot of women like to have their men stick either the index or thumb finger inside of their ass while having sex. This could also help ease you into anal sex. It feels good too.
I am interested in hearing some of your "anal sex" stories, good or bad. I will keep them totally anonymous. Email me or leave a comment anonymously. Naughtybynajaah@gmail.com
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