Who has the upper hand in your relationship? If you constantly find yourself fumbling for an answer or frequently feeling inferior then Im afraid it might not be you. Can you see your spouse rolling their eyes at you in disdain because you asked another dumb ass question? Did you notice how they walk slightly behind you, so people wont think that y'all are together? Can you ask them a question without fear of being screamed or yelled at? No? Then Im afraid that you and your spouse lack chemistry.
Its obvious to others as well. I was once in a relationship like this. I knew this guy since forever. We were actually in a relationship when we were younger, but as adults, things were different. He seemed inferior mentally to me. I was so ahead of him in my thinking. But because we had history and he was a nice guy, I thought that I had to be with him. Needless to say that relationship crashed and burned. And it just got me to thinking. Now that I am in my mid to late twenties, being coupled up is becoming more and more important. But NOT at the expense of settling. I often accept less then I deserve because I compare what I don't have to what others do. And then when I get what they have, I realize that I never wanted any of that shit. Lol.
I believe people get into mix matched relationships mainly out of insecurity. We sometimes feel the need to "fit in" and allow ourselves to be with someone who we are incompatible with because it "looks right". Just because someone likes you does not mean you have to like them.
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