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To me, sex doesn't exist without "talking dirty". I love to talk, so telling my sexual athlete what I want and how I want it, is basically bedroom gossip to me. Yea, we all hear what they say on the porno's but are we really saying any of that shit?  Hearing "oh Daddy this is yours" or "yes baby f**k me" over & over again becomes boring. When I was 18 years old and my boyfriend at the time called me a "pretty ass bitch" while we were having intercourse, sex has never been the same, and when I'm with someone who isn't that verbal sexually, the experience is beyond boring. Of course you have to be with someone your comfortable with and you all know each others sexual history, but once that's all squared away and you've been together 50+ times sexually already, the ohh's and ahh's become oh so boring. To get things started, dare your girl to not make any sounds while your inside her, watch her face expressions from trying to fight and keep quiet. Vice versa for the women. I tell my guy I'm not gonna make no noise and I love to watch his face ferociously f**k me into singing sweet oh god's & yes baby's !!
Basically what I'm trying to say is think outside the box. It can be something as simple as what I suggested or as outrageous as you want. If you wanna stand on your head and get strokes tell him. If you want her to  chase your nut with a shot of Patron, tell her.
Sex is mostly mental, you see someone attractive, you become aroused and begin to imagine all of the sexual positions the two of you could be in. Once that initial mind play is conquered, you then have to come up with new and electrifying ways to keep your spouses sexual imagery racing. 
Let your imagination run wild. I've told my man that I was gonna do his laundry while we were having sex one day, he went crazy!! In a good way, it was something so out of the ordinary. Who is actually thinking about laundry while having GOOD sex? But go there, tell your woman that your not playing xbox or PS3 for a whole week!! HA!  It all adds to the sexual experience. When you've been with someone for a while and y'all have done every position, hearing "this is yours" becomes  is so lame. Obviously its yours because we are still sleeping with you! Have mentally four play, it enhances the physical arousal and then the actually sex.